(sometimes) Being Silent is not Gold

So, today I learnt to manage serious problem in school. The discussion was mostly about aggression, bullying, violence, and defiant that happened at school. I ever hear about aggression but I did not really understand about the meaning, and today is the first time for me to understand about aggression. I got a conclusion that the relation of aggression, bullying, violence, defiant and others serious problem is about the misbehavior which happened at school. I also have experience about aggression itself.
The story begins when I was in 3rd semester in university. I got a lecturer who is smart, beautiful, and also discipline. I want to focus on her behavior which is disciplines. I agreed that a discipline is one of the climate variables that can be used to make the management of the class well. But, I recognize that the use of this disciplines which is not follow by caring from lecturer to the students’ need, made the condition of students’ become unmotivated. Ok, I will make it clear by the case happened. From the beginning, the lecturer told us about the assignments that should be complete by us. That was not only weekly assignments, but there were lots of assignments that should be complete by group and individual. I was the students so I could feel the burden. I can say that it the most load assignments for that semester. Sometimes we criticism the assignments because in some weeks we ever got three assignments on the same day, but she always strictly said to us that there was no excuses.
I believe that the lecturer gave the assignments with a purpose so I done the assignment. But there was a day when the lecturer commented of some of students’ summary (the assignment was to summarize one topic each week). She commented in the middle of the semester which means we were done a half of the summary. She commented in front of class to some of students who have done wrong. She call the name then said the weakness then continue to others without gave any space for the ‘wrong’ students to make certain about the weakness. She continued to the lesson then. I was one of the ‘wrong’ students. I felt hurt. I expect the lecturer would give comments secretly to one by one of the students not in front of class. I felt judge wrong in front of others. I realize that I was done wrong at that time because I made the summary in short but I didn’t agree when she just said about the weakness. I done it with effort, I believe there was other thing from my summary that can hold true be sides it short. From that time, I become aggressive because I want to communicate with her about my feeling but I cannot say it directly to her. I was afraid of getting rejection and she said “no excuse” again.
My aggression was express by my attitude in her class. I become unwilling of having class but I still attend the class, the impact is I was look like lazy and or sleepy at class. I want her to know that ‘there is something bad happened Miss” and I want her to ask me “what happened?”. Fiuh, there was nothing like that happened. She continued teach as like there was nothing happened. The assignments still come and go. I still did the assignment. I expect her to give comments by email. But she never did my expectations. I started to not liking the course. I started to not liking her. Finally, I could not hold that anymore. At the end of semester period, It means the latest meeting. There was a discussion about how teacher teach a lesson (I forgot the lesson). I didn’t pay more attention to the discussion of way in teaching but I pay more to the teacher’s pedagogies. I raised my hand and commented. More or less, I said sardonically that the good teacher cannot just give assignment but they have to comment on it, and the time in giving comment is not at the end but at the middle. I criticize her indirectly. But she just kept quite. Some of friends also comments in purpose to cynical her because of some problem, may be similar with me may be not. She concluded the lesson and then closed the meeting. She didn’t talk about the problem happened, she didn’t talk “hati ke hati” to us. She just go like nothing happened. But her facial expression looked like keeping a temper. From her facebook account, she expressed her feeling of disappointed to us. Again, I want to highlight: “there is no verbal communication of the class problem”
After having session of managing serious problem, I can see my problem in clearly. The lecturer did not do the function of caring to the students’ needed. The students started to feel un-respected by the lecturer. The students try to communicate it but the lecturer strictly said no excuse. I have problem with her and I cannot communicate it because of afraid. She didn’t know it because she didn’t really care for it. There were other problems. She still kept silence and pretend to not make it as a problem.
In my opinion, the lecturer did wrong since the first time. She acted to fight every comment for the teaching and learning process. Actually, this was the first aggression happened and the lecturer did not solve it immediately. The aggression continued and become bigger but she still kept silence till the end. But behind the students, she expressed her feeling and told the worlds use social media. That is also wrong because she cannot communicate the class problem in class but outside. She didn’t solve the problem. As the session said today, there is no solution so the misbehavior happened till the end. I think it is better if the teacher/lecturer discuss about the problem immediately before it is become larger. Discuss about what students’ difficulties that effect problems happened and together find the solution. No need for teacher/lecturer to take everything from class become personal moreover bring it to social media. Things that happened at class is class problem. So, in conclude when teacher face problem with aggression, it is better to them to solve it immediately and understand what exactly the students’ need and then teacher better not to take the problem become personal.